Episode 98: Stop With the Shoulds

In this episode, recorded in early March before the COVID-19 crisis started keeping us at home, Janine and Shannon discuss one of their least favorite words, "should."

Discussion topics include:

• Janine’s delight that her RootsTech talk is behind her and her admiration at how well organized RootsTech is

• How “shoulds” can weigh you down

• That should is one of Janine’s least favorite words, and one that she tries not to use with her clients

• How should can sneak into one’s self talk

• The judgmental, mean nature of the word should

• Thinking about words you can substitute for should

• The irony that people think that Shannon and Janine tell their clients what to do

• Recognizing resistance when you bristle at the word should

• Getting in touch with why something is important to you to get past resistance

• Allowing yourself to move forward with that information

• Newsflash: There are no bonus points for making something more difficult than it needs to be

• Letting go of preconceived ideas about the right way to do something

• Figuring out how you can get things done with as much ease as possible

• Editing the shoulds out of our to-do lists

• Choosing to do things rather than feeling you should do them

• Putting yourself back in a place of choice